The dummy… it amazes me just how much controversy this inocuous piece of plastic causes.
Both of my children have a dummy. I am not ashamed by this fact nor do I feel like I have made a bad parenting choice in giving my children a dummy. For me the dummy is a necessary piece of equipment!
Baby boy suffered with reflux. He hardly slept, constantly wanted to be held and would scream for hours on end. It took months for any health professional to take me seriously and give him something to help his pain. In those months a dummy was my lifesaver. It soothed my baby and gave me a little bit of peace to do some daily necessities. I could take a shower, which must have been a relief to those around me, I could wash the dishes and I even managed to get dressed on most days! Who would have thought that a piece of plastic would enable all of that!
However, you would not believe the criticism I received for giving him a dummy. If I listed all of the negative comments I heard then I would probably still be writing this when baby number 4 needs a dummy (only kidding Mum) so I’ll stick to my favourites:
He looks ugly with that thing in his mouth – my child is not ugly and how dare you even insinuate that!
He’ll never speak properly if he has a dummy – ha ha, you were so wrong on that score, his speech is amazing and advanced for his age!
Wouldn’t you rather he suck his thumb? – no I would not. I can take a dummy away and obviously can’t take his thumb away!
Take that dummy out of his mouth, I want to look at him properly – 1. I will not upset my child just so you can look at him and 2. his dummy does not affect your eyes!
Argh, it is so annoying that people react so negatively to my parenting choice. I repeat, my CHOICE.
When baby girl was born someone said to me “she’s not going to have a dummy is she?”. I replied that she would if she needed one. “I bet you’d rather that she didn’t have one really” was the response. Well guess what, she does have one. It soothes her (damn you reflux), comforts her and helps her to sleep. Once again the dummy is a necessary piece of equipment in this household.
So say what you like. Say that my child looks ugly, say that I am a lazy parent, say that my child will have wonky teeth and poor speech. I actually don’t care.
Dummies, what are your thoughts?
6 thoughts on “Dummies – my child, my choice!”
Eh – I’ve heard plenty of controversy on these before. I know it can get bad if you let your kids become utterly attached to them, and by 3 years old they’re still sucking on them full time and have their teeth getting misplaced as a result.
For whatever it’s worth, I never made it much of a priority for thought. None of my kids were ever seriously attached to them, and they had limited usefulness in terms of placating them when they were ill-of-disposition.
Baby boy is 2 and has his for naps and bedtime now. I have intentions of getting rid of it but with the birth of baby girl and now potty training on the cards I am giving it a couple of months before I bin the dummies.
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My two year old still uses hers pretty frequently during the day. Baby boy uses his less, he’s just not as attached. The bink (we call them binkys) calm her down and make her happy and I am not about to mess with that. Her speech is great and she actually doesn’t need it to sleep. It’s more of a during the day comfort thing. I have no intention of taking it away anytime soon.
Both of mine are more attached to them to sleep so not looking forward to that battle. I’m in no rush at the moment to get rid of baby boy’s.
Dummies are not the problem. People not respecting your right to make different decisions for your own children are the real problem. If I only had a dollar for every time someone suggested that I do things just like they do…
That is very true Victoria!
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