Today Mr K and I had some alone time and I have to admit that it was lovely. I say alone time, we actually spent it with about 45000 other people at a football match but it was time spent together without baby boy.
Now I love being a family and the time that we spend together but sometimes it is nice just to spend time with my husband. I sometimes worry that since baby boy came along I have neglected Mr K a little bit. He doesn’t moan about it or even admit that I have but I know that it’s true. I just think that at the moment we are in the parent zone more than the couple zone. In the evenings once baby boy is asleep I just want to crash on the sofa and watch tv or read a book in bed. I never realised quite how exhausting being a parent is until I became one! It is no excuse though for neglecting the intimacy in my relationship and today, whilst sat watching my team lose (and Mr K’s team win), I realised that I have to make more of an effort.
I have decided that I need to work at the little things that make a relationship special. Instead of lying on one sofa whilst Mr K is on the other, we could snuggle up together. Instead of watching tv whilst Mr K reads in bed, I could lay next to him and read as well. Instead of throwing something quick to make in the oven, we could cook a meal together. These are all just small things but together I think that they could really help to bring us even closer together.
Over the next month I am going to try to do something special for Mr K everyday. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. It could just be a note in his pocket or his favourite tea when he gets in from work. I am looking forward to this and do you know what, I feel more intimate already!
How have you made time to be a couple after having children?
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4 thoughts on “Alone Time”
I love this idea! I’m going to give it a go too! We’ve been on a couple of nights out just us and also went away for the night last week which was fantastic. As much as I love my little girl, it’s nice to be a wife and not just mummy sometimes! X
Let me know how you get on. I’m going to start properly tomorrow and do it for the whole of September.
Thanks for sharing on Throwback Thursday! Date nights are so much easier to plan when the kids are older–I’m taking the hubs to a brewery tomorrow for a beer tasting!
We are managing a few date nights now with the help of our mum’s babysitting. It’s nice to have a bit of us time.