Baby on board

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Today Mr K and I had the journey from hell! We had to drive back from Birmingham (over an hour) with baby boy crying. We tried everything. I sat in the back with him, we pulled into the services, I gave him his dummy, I gave him a drink, I gave him a toy … nothing worked! In the end we just had to plough on through and just get home.

It was heartbreaking to see him so upset and there was nothing I could do to comfort him. Every time he was put back in his seat he started to cry again. By the time we got home both Mr K and I were exhausted. Baby boy however was full of beans. He was delighted that he was home and the tears stopped instantly. Little monkey!

Today’s post therefore is brought to you by one very sore head. I am keeping it short and sweet and I’m off for an early night.

How do you manage horrendous car journeys?

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Alone Time

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Today Mr K and I had some alone time and I have to admit that it was lovely. I say alone time, we actually spent it with about 45000 other people at a football match but it was time spent together without baby boy.

Now I love being a family and the time that we spend together but sometimes it is nice just to spend time with my husband. I sometimes worry that since baby boy came along I have neglected Mr K a little bit. He doesn’t moan about it or even admit that I have but I know that it’s true. I just think that at the moment we are in the parent zone more than the couple zone. In the evenings once baby boy is asleep I just want to crash on the sofa and watch tv or read a book in bed. I never realised quite how exhausting being a parent is until I became one! It is no excuse though for neglecting the intimacy in my relationship and today, whilst sat watching my team lose (and Mr K’s team win), I realised that I have to make more of an effort.

I have decided that I need to work at the little things that make a relationship special. Instead of lying on one sofa whilst Mr K is on the other, we could snuggle up together. Instead of watching tv whilst Mr K reads in bed, I could lay next to him and read as well. Instead of throwing something quick to make in the oven, we could cook a meal together. These are all just small things but together I think that they could really help to bring us even closer together.

Over the next month I am going to try to do something special for Mr K everyday. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. It could just be a note in his pocket or his favourite tea when he gets in from work. I am looking forward to this and do you know what, I feel more intimate already!

How have you made time to be a couple after having children?

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Birth – my story

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Last night I had a nightmare. I dreamt about baby boy being born and it was so vivid it felt like I was there all over again. I didn’t have the best birth and although the outcome was good, I don’t think that I have gotten over the process yet.

Now before I begin I would like to say, if you are pregnant or planning to be in the near future then stop reading now! Turn off your laptop, tablet or phone and run for the hills (only until tomorrow’s post that is).

Baby boy was born 3 days past his due date. The day before he was born I had a routine midwife appointment. My blood pressure was a little high (only a tiny bit) and my midwife decided to send me to triage to be checked out. She assured me that she wasn’t worried but it was procedure so she had to send me just to be safe. Mr K and I made our way over to the hospital, after calling at the supermarket for a spot of lunch for Mr K, and proceeded to sit through numerous tests. We sat in a tiny room for what seemed like a lifetime (it was actually only a few hours). My blood pressure had come back down to normal and once the blood test results were back I was convinced that we were going to be sent home. Whilst we were waiting for the results I was taken for a scan. It was quite exciting to see my little baby again. I hadn’t expected to have another scan and I wondered if the picture on the screen would really be what my baby would look like when it decided to make an appearance. The scan was good and we were asked to sit in the waiting area until the blood test results came back. We waited and waited and waited! Based on that experience I am seriously considering raising money for new chairs or cushions at the very least! Eventually we were called through and the midwife talked us through the results. Everything was fine. Then came the ‘but’. It turned out that baby boy had stopped growing and was a tad on the small side. I was to return the following day to be induced. NOOOO!

We were warned that being induced was a long process. It would likely take days and so we made sure that we were ready. We went to the supermarket and stocked up on goodies for Mr K, we downloaded films and tv programs onto tablets ready for the long hours of waiting and we made sure we had all manner of chargers to keep batteries topped up. We were ready!

When we arrived at the hospital the next morning it was all a bit of an anti climax to be honest. Because baby boy was expected to be quite small they wanted to ensure there was a space in the special care unit but they were close to capacity. It was looking like we would be going home. Before we could go home though they took me down for a final scan and it’s a good job they did. All of the fluid around baby boy had disappeared! Don’t ask me where it went because I honestly couldn’t tell you. There had been no gush or even trickle as far as I knew! It was back to plan A though and I was given a pessary to start the induction.

An hour later I was in serious discomfort. Please bear in mind that this process was supposed to take a few days and so when it started to hurt like hell after 2 hours I was a tad concerned. I tried watching tv to take my mind off the pain and bouncing on a birthing ball but nothing worked. I was starting to think that if I couldn’t cope now then I would never make it to full blown labour! After roughly 3 hours I felt, and heard, a loud pop in my back. Then the pain intensified! A midwife popped her head around the curtain to check on us. I was busy concentrating on trying not to scream blue murder so I wasn’t overly aware of what was happening but Mr K says that she took a quick look at the monitor, her face went white and she ran out shouting for another midwife. A minute later she was back accompanied by 3 doctors. It is all a little hazy from here on. I remember the doctors telling me to lie on my back and then telling me that I had to have a cesarean section. They started running down the corridor with the trolley, taking my clothes off on the way, and when we arrived in theatre they explained that there was no time for an epidural, I would have to have a general anaesthetic. The last thing I remember is someone pressing down on my throat to help me pass out.

I woke up to bright lights. Mr K was there and I was asked if I would like to meet my son. I had a son! I couldn’t quite believe it. It was surreal! I was still groggy and to be honest I just wanted to sleep. Baby boy was 5lb 15oz. Small but not too small and he was perfectly healthy.

The next day it was explained to me that my placenta had started to detach and that baby boy was extremely distressed. I don’t know if it was a result of the induction or if it would have happened anyway but I was lucky to be in hospital when it did.

It wasn’t the birth that I had planned. There was no relaxing music or warm bath. No soft lighting or calm atmosphere. Instead I was asleep for the majority of the process. I feel robbed to be honest. Robbed of the perfect birth that was sold to me during the antenatal classes and in the pregnancy books. I am so grateful that baby boy was delivered safely but I can’t think about that day without still feeling slightly sad and a tiny bit bitter. I know that will fade with time but until then I try not to think about it too much.

Did you have the birth you expected?

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Growing up

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A few months ago I made a deal with baby boy that he would stop growing and stay a little baby forever. He has broken that deal! He is growing and developing every day and although I marvel in his accomplishments I can’t help but feel sad that he is no longer a little baby.

At almost 7 months he is becoming more independent than I ever dreamed he would be at this age. He no longer needs me to rock him to sleep, he likes to feed himself and, to my absolute horror, he squirmed out of a cuddle today! I almost cried! Where has the time gone? I knew that he would grow up one day but it is all happening too quickly.

I fear that I am not making the most of this time! I worry that I am wasting each day worrying about trivial matters and not paying close attention to the little things that baby boy is doing. I wish I could turn back time and spend every second marvelling at my baby boy, holding him and not letting him go. I can’t of course and so I must make do with making sure that I make the most of our time to come!

Do you feel that you are making the most of your children being young?

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The ‘R’ word

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I need one of those things. You know … one of those things that helps you get things done. Oh yes, that’s the word, routine!

I have been trying to get into one of these for a while now and I’m sorry to say that I am failing miserably in my attempt! Some days are better than others. Baby boy will take good, long naps at the right times and I think, yes we’ve cracked it. Then the next day goes completely to pot! I am finding it almost impossible to keep on top of things in the house because on the bad days I can barely leave baby boys sight! It is very frustrating!

I am lucky that I have an amazing Mum though who helps me out. She kicks me into gear and makes sure jobs get done. I don’t know what I would do without her!

Next week I am returning to work and I dread to think how I am going to manage. But I’ll just have to I suppose. I am a Mum and that’s what we do. The dreaded ‘R’ word will have to be implemented whether it likes it or not!

How did you get into a routine that worked for you?

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